Should You Do a First Look? My Honest Thoughts as a Wedding Photographer
Your wedding photos are about your wedding—the wedding is not about the photos.
I want to start with that because, as a wedding photographer, I’ve seen couples feel pressure to structure their day around photography rather than what truly matters: the experience, the emotions, and the once-in-a-lifetime moments.
One of the biggest decisions couples face when planning their timeline is whether or not to do a first look—that moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other privately. Is it a good idea? Sure, in some cases. Is it necessary? Absolutely not.
Let’s break it down.
The Perks of a First Look
First looks can be incredibly intimate and emotional—a quiet moment shared before the whirlwind of the day begins. For some couples, it helps calm their nerves, allowing them to enter the ceremony with a sense of peace instead of anticipation jitters. And yes, one of the biggest perks—it saves time on portraits later.
Don’t Do It Just for Practicality
If you have always envisioned that magical moment where your partner sees you for the first time as you walk down the aisle, heart pounding, eyes locked, with all your loved ones around—you do not have to sacrifice that for convenience. That moment is powerful. That moment is worth protecting.
A first look should never be done simply to fit more photos into the timeline. As your photographer, I will confidently tell you: we will create a timeline that works beautifully no matter what you choose.
Know Yourself & Your Intentions
Some couples love the calm, private sweetness of a first look. Others find it a little… well, awkward. And that’s okay! There’s often a lot of emotional expectation placed on this moment—should we cry? Should we laugh? What if we feel nothing at all?
The truth? There’s no right or wrong choice.
If you and your fiancé are the type to relish a quiet moment together before the ceremony, a first look might be perfect. But if you know that seeing each other at the altar, fully present and surrounded by loved ones, is the moment you’ve always imagined—stick with that.
Final Thoughts: Do What Feels Right
First looks can be sweet. First looks can be meaningful. But they are not a wedding requirement. Your decision should be based on your personalities, your emotions, and your vision for the day—not convenience, not pressure, and definitely not just for the photos.
No matter what you choose, your wedding day will be incredible. And as your photographer, I will make sure your timeline works seamlessly, with or without a first look.
